Sites like e Harmony, Ok Cupid and are becoming more and more prevalent in our culture.
A few of my friends had tried online dating before, and despite my reservations about it, curiosity got the better of me — so I decided to give it a shot. “Perhaps this is the way to meet ‘the one.’” I arrived at Babette cafe, where Rob and I had agreed to meet. The man in the profile picture had gained 20 pounds and apparently wiped off his face and drew another one on.
After all, I hadn’t been on a date for a while and was craving that feeling of excitement that occurs when one is meeting a possible lover. “Green jacket, green jacket,” I thought to myself — then, “No. Now that he had already seen me, I didn’t want to be rude.
It’s amazing what is revealed when you put a voice to someone’s photo. If she looks like Katherine Heigl and sounds like Joe Pesci, you may not feel quite the same after a few minutes on the horn.
It happens, so don’t take it personally, and just let you heart guide you.
I went up to Rob and introduced myself, which was a strange experience because I had talked to him so much before. We went into the cafe, ordered our coffee and talked. We had similar interests, similar tastes in music (classic rock and alternative).
But other than listing off our likes and dislikes — which we already had a sense of from each other’s profile information — our conversations lacked substance. Unable to say no to Rob’s face, I chose to send him a message later, telling him that I was “missing that spark” — typical protocol for rejecting someone online. Who knows if that girl in your Math 1A discussion is single in the first place or if that cute athlete at the gym is looking for a lover just as you are? Furthermore, not everyone has a bad experience like I did.
After you’ve created and polished your online dating profile to the point where you’d even date yourself, distinguished it with pics worthy of a mash up of In Touch and Vanity Fair, and managed to score a written response from a woman who looks like Angela Jolie, thinks like Oprah, and who your Mom would love to hang out with (not that hanging with Angelina or Oprah is bad), you are ready to take the connection to the next level.
Here are a few easy steps to make things happen quickly.
Show her proper respect and do the same for yourself. They smell fear and will instinctively use it to get take the advantage. This is about women being turned off by desperation.