That’s because emotion and fear trump logic most times. Work at getting self worth from inside, not outside.
And while we may be aware of the truth, our subconscious mind holds tightly to its habitual ways of thinking. If someone you barely know ignores you and you feel down in the dumps (thinking they don’t like you), you’re getting too much self-worth from others.
Maybe next time you make eye contact, smile and say hi.
The point is you keep getting more and more comfortable being around, then interacting with, the people you’re most interested in. What you’re doing is there’s little reason to feel intimidated by these people.
THAT’s why you feel anxiety around them; you’re putting your sense of worth in their hands.
In turn, it’s this anxiety that’s causing you to be awkward and feel you have nothing to say.
But acceptance from these people means something talk, you’re so nervous you act weird and awkward.
The people you’re comfortable around on the other hand, you either don’t care if they accept you or you already know they’ll like you as you are.
Bullying other people is a sign of weakness — people to this when they can not stand out due to their own abilities, so they put others down instead. The issue here is not that you are not intimidating, its that you’re being a pushover. It means that you are standing up for what you believe in.
This means that you are easily subdued or taken advantage of.
And when you aren’t seeking their approval, they’ll often respond to you better.
Even if you don’t have much in common or make “social mistakes,” it won’t matter so much.
Also, as I’m sure you’ve heard before, rejection and embarrassment isn’t the end of the world.