Elyssa says, “I was hanging out in Union Square Park [in New York City] one day and just kind of randomly starting talking to someone.I enjoyed talking to him, so I was just like, 'Would you like to have coffee sometime?
Instead, it's up to you to seek out people to meet and things to do, especially if you're moving to a new city.
“I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but once you graduate from college, dating takes effort.
Remember, the worst that can happen is that he never calls.
If that's the case, treat the scenario as practice for asking out the next guy. If it makes you feel better, remember that guys feel the pressure of asking girls out all the time. How are post-grad guys different than college guys?
Trust me, it happens eventually – you just have to go out and experience the world as you normally would.
For me personally, that means gallery openings, art parties, cabarets and just hanging out with friends (I've met awesome guys all of the places listed). Here are a few new places you might meet guys after you graduate: While there may have been a stigma against online dating in college, it's fairly commonplace once you leave your campus bubble.
You have to coordinate schedules and find time to see each other.
And that’s if you can even find each other in the first place, because now you have to search out the people you click with, since they’re no longer all around you,” says Kriger. Elyssa says, “When I moved to New York [after graduation], I found myself wondering when I would have New York friends and meet a New York boy.
' He said yes and called me later to make plans.” Take after Elyssa's example and start small by sparking a conversation. If you're getting a good vibe from the conversation, don't be afraid to take it a step further and ask him out for coffee.
It could be as simple as a comment on the weather, a comment on something he's reading or even asking for directions. “You could very easily never see these people again so it's a lot less scary to just be like, 'Hey...'” Elyssa points out.
This works because you know you already have something in common, in that you both like to go to these kinds of places. Some of the places you might have typically met guys are off-limits once you graduate. Kriger explains, “If you’re worried that online dating makes you look desperate, get over it.