We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pull us in the wrong direction.Defective dating Dating has built-in problems, and if we continue to date according to the system as it is today, well more than likely swerve into trouble.And if we look at intimacy that way, then most dating relationships are pure icing. In most cases, especially in high school, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment.
But He has made the fulfillment of intimacy a byproduct of commitment-based love.
You might say that intimacy between a man and a woman is the icing on the cake of a relationship headed toward marriage.
In fact, thats what the original revolution of dating was all about. As I see it, dating is a product of our entertainment-driven, disposable-everything American culture.
Long before Seventeen magazine ever gave teenagers tips on dating, people did things very differently.
At the turn of the twentieth century, a guy and girl became romantically involved only if they planned to marry.
If a young man spent time at a girls home, family and friends assumed that he intended to propose to her.Although this pastor encouraged a different outcome saving sex for marriage he didnt offer a different practice. Head out on the same course as those who have fallen and hope that in the critical moment youll be able to stay in control?Giving young people this kind of advice is like giving a person a cart that swerves and sending him into a store stocked with the worlds most expensive Chinaware.Despite the narrow aisles and glass shelves laden with delicate dishes, this person is expected to navigate the rows with a cart known to go off course? Yet this is exactly what we try in many of our relationships.We see the failed attempts around us, but we refuse to replace this cart called dating.When youve climbed two thousand feet up a mountain face, you dont want to have a conversation about how she feels tied down by your relationship.