I become consumed with what to say, how long to wait before replying, and trying to decipher what that other person “really” thinks about me.
These elements stir up my anxiety and send my self-worth plummeting.
So, before a date, I not only stress about the date itself, but I panic about the anxiety itself.
I initially tried to convince him I would never leave him and that I find him fascinating and love him. Have you ever told someone they are too good for you or you don't know if you can be who they deserve? Similar to your boyfriend, I also struggle with anxiety, have expressed doubts about myself, and at times have not felt good enough for my girlfriend either.
I think what you have been doing so far sounds excellent, which is simply telling him that you'll be there for him no matter what and also by being open about your own insecurities.
Now my approach to dating includes telling the other person when I am nervous because acting on the nerves decreases the negative thoughts I experience.
When I choose to tell my date that I am nervous, it forms a connection of vulnerability between two people; then my date feels comfortable telling me that he’s nervous as well.
a face-to-face interaction; however, it doesn’t make it any easier.
When I begin “virtually speaking” with a prospective date, I find that the conversations can be extremely stressful for me. Just to give you an idea of the potential catastrophe, on the side of my Klonapin bottle it says that mixing with alcohol may cause "erratic personality changes." Awesome. Your friends without anxiety don't get it and think you're being ridiculous. " Yes, thank you for clearing that up, it IS a stupid thing to have anxiety about, because I do have an anxiety disorder. You indulge in magical thinking, often consumer-based, before the date. Buying and wearing this overpriced Gwynethy cardigan. If you go on a dinner date too early for your comfort level, you can hardly eat and the guy assumes you have an eating disorder. But for now, you scare the shit out of me, so I'm slowly nibbling on a lettuce leaf with fear in my eyes. You drink to calm your nerves, and since you can't really eat (see above), you get really shitfaced really fast. Even if you have pre-planned (#3), these things do slip your mind occasionally. You'd be amazed at the amount of food I can consume once I'm comfortable around you! Oh, and if you forgot you took a Xanax earlier, you're on the floor.Dating can be daunting in general, but if you struggle with social anxiety, it can seem impossible at times. Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up!