I don’t know of any other guys who actually took the surveys on there (like I did eagerly); I also know few women who took the surveys for more than a dozen questions.So, what I’m saying here is that dating online became tougher — the common denominator lowered and therefore interfered with the quality of matches I and others would receive.
If your i Message gray ratio is low — in other words, if you’re sending significantly more texts to someone than you’re receiving from them — it may mean you’re just wordy, but your date might take it as a sign that you’re too attached or needy.
If you’ve already sent a few texts that have gone by unanswered, give the other person the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance to respond.
If they genuinely missed your message, or got it and didn’t get around to replying yet, being awful will also not help your cause.
So instead of something like “Why haven’t you replied to my messages?
But when you’re genuinely not sure if someone got your message or not, a follow-up is always worthwhile, and can be relatively low-stress.
So how do you follow up with someone and keep it lighthearted and casual?After the fall of My Space, I eventually created my Ok Cupid account.I really got into the quizzes that members could take. Ok Cupid prides themselves on the ability to match people based on responses to their surveys.“Hey, did you get my last message asking if you got my last message” isn’t an attractive look on anyone.And if they didn’t have the balls to tell you they weren’t interested to your face, they probably weren’t someone you wanted to date anyway.They have a decent algorithm as I found myself conversing with smart, funny and attractive women regularly. There wasn’t much competition — that is, not many other guys were using it when I was.