I know I can handle this at the UI level, but I'd love to have a validation in place to prevent a bug in the UI from allowing it.
Validation means to express understanding and acceptance of another person's internal experience, whatever that might be. Validation builds relationships and helps ease upset feelings.
Knowing that you are understood and that your emotions and thoughts are accepted by others is powerful. Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts and feelings.
You will also have feelings that you know aren't justfied.
If you fight the thoughts and feelings, or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset.
Level 1 Be Present To be mindful of your emotions without pushing them away is consistent with Linehan’s first level of validation: Being Present.
To be present also means to ground yourself and not dissociate, daydream, suppress or numb your emotions. Feeling the pain of sadness, hurt, and fear is challenging and difficult.I have a many-to-many model, following the example in this great railscast My model links authors to each other.I'd like to validate that an author cannot friend himself.Maybe you reflect on the ways you feel the emotion in your body and consider the actions that go with the emotion.Reflecting means observing and describing, components of mindfulness as LInehan defines it.I sense tightness in my stomach, so maybe there is fear as well.” Saying, “I am a total loser and no one wants to spend any time with me,” would not be stating the facts of your experience.