But does the sexy swag of a prisoner outweigh the risks of loving a violent offender?Writer Julie Bindel of the British newspaper I once interviewed a woman who was waiting for a man to be released from a life sentence she had met via the prison pen pal service.“They become very lonely and often get cut off from their friends and family,” Biske told the Grio.
ABC News reports that there are over a dozen major prison dating sites.
Rare sites like make it clear that some of its proceeds are donated to programs that benefit the prisoner and ex-con community.
Posing in spruced-up versions of their prison uniforms, prisoners use these sites to sell themselves to potential pen pals and describe the types of people they want to meet.
One compelling prospect, Israel Cosme, age 30, displays his perfectly toned chest to visitors of telling all takers, “I love to laugh and have been told I have a great sense of humor.” Precious Johnson in her profile on the same site cracks a cute smile above the message: “I am looking for a nice, patient, funny, and understanding man for a genuine friendship that could possibly lead to more.” Few prisoners in the United States have Internet access; therefore, for the incarcerated to make that special connection online, someone on the outside must get them started. With fees in the range of $10-75, prisoner dating sites charge willing friends to list an inmate’s vital statistics on the web — or the company can mail the necessary forms to the wannabe lover behind bars who then mails them in.
“The odds of everything working out are slim,” Bischke said.
Welcome to Loveaprisoner.com, a pen-pal service dedicated to those in the prison system! Our goal is to reduce recidivism by giving inmates the feeling of love, affection, and belongingness which is instinctually vital to all people both free and imprisoned.Regarding marriages spawned by his site, he says there have been “quite a few over the years.” This form of fatal attraction is common.According to ABC News, hundreds of women marry men in prison for violent crimes every year — and prisoner dating sites are a central means through which criminals find mates.He had killed two women in domestic violence situations.My interviewee was desperate to marry him, and, although she knew of his crimes, was convinced she could change him.Bischke created as a pen-pal service to capitalize on this market, adding “and of course I want to make a profit like any other business.” His site now averages 3,000 visitors and 70,000 page views a day.