As she did, a slew of texts and notifications filled her boyfriend's screen…including one from Bumble announcing a new connection. "No, we're not." Apparently he just hadn't gotten around to deleting his dating apps; and his verbal agreement was the final confirmation Heidi needed.
There's of course no hard-and-fast rule for when to delete all the dating apps you've used in the past.
But there is a point when the people we're dating kind of fall away and we focus in on one person we're developing serious feelings for.
In her mind, the case was closed -- and the two are still happily together.
By being so direct, Heidi saved herself the torture of spending the rest of her vacation in her own head, trying to figure out what was in his.
You're incapable of fully investing in the relationship you're now in when you keep part of yourself available to other people.
Instead, you're constantly reassuring yourself other people are out there just in case -- and you might even be casting harsher judgment on the person you're with, looking for things to be wrong or not diving in to repair issues as they arise.
Given how much time we spend together, it’s really difficult for me to make a case against him keeping his online dating profile up if his ridiculousness of a truth is, in fact, a truth at all.
He says he likes to read other people’s profile summaries for entertainment purposes while taking a crap on the toilet. I don’t buy it for a second, but in the spirit of trusting him, I went along with it anyway despite my own common sense. Why mess it up with my own emotional hangups and insecurities?
Other times, you get hit with a case of FOMO, or fear of missing out, and you take a gander at all the men or women you could be dating instead.
Every now and then, you come across the online dating profile of someone you know, but when that someone you know happens to be someone you’re supposed to be in a relationship with, you can’t help but start questioning the validity of that relationship.
But here's the rub: It's not so easy to know when that moment exactly happens.