They don’t need much of a cerebral connection to give someone a chance.Plus, men don’t receive nearly as many out-of-the-blue messages as women. Make it personal Do not send a generic “Hey what’s up” type of message.A generic message may also give her the impression that you’re just out there spamming messages to everyone.
If you can’t find any common interests with her based on her profile, that’s OK.
You do not need to make something up about yourself.
One tactic that worked well for me in the past was to ask her a question related to a common interest that we share and then follow up with a comment.
For example, if we both love to run, I might say something like this: Have you ever done a Tough Mudder?
Men and women approach the dating world differently.
Men don’t have a defensive mindset when it comes to dating.
I went to one last year and it was hilarious how many crazy costumes people wore to the event. Be Real It is great to put your best face forward when making that important first impression, but don’t be afraid to show who you really are.
The follow-up comment shows that you’re not just asking a question for the sake of conversation. You don’t want to make her feel like she’s at a job interview. The best way to accomplish this is to talk to her about things that you actually care about.
But don’t just say “hey I like rock climbing also.” That comes across as impersonal and not genuine. Tell her where you climb or mention your last expedition. Don’t hand out cheap compliments Cheap compliments abound in online dating. The occasional, genuine compliment is OK when used sparingly. If you are going to throw out a compliment, make it something unique – something other than her physical appearance – and save it for a later e-mail. Experiment One thing we all eventually learn about dating is that there will always be more women out there. If you’re having a hard time getting responses, you stand nothing to lose by mixing it up and trying something new. Ask one good question Questions are good because they give the other person an easy way to respond to your message.
You definitely do not stand out by writing a message full of things about how good she looks, how pretty she is and so on. Don’t be afraid to take risks and try different tactics. If your first e-mail has no questions, you leave it on the girl to come up with something to say.
You will kill your response rate if you write something negative.