I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.
Woman B: It has very little impact, although it does lead to some amusing jokes at times. Because we worked together we were able to spend time together and I would come home from school on the weekends.
He is a film nerd and usually mentions the year a film came out. " It's now at the point where he preempts me saying that. Once we were a more formal couple things became much harder.
My friend (who was my age and in high school with me) worked at a ski resort near us. He's always been attracted to a person's personality. He actually thought I was older than I am, and both his wives were close to him in age.
I've had crushes and done the odd online date, but I'd never dated seriously before. We started dating and it developed into a relationship shortly after. Woman D: We met initially at a mutual friend's house. Selecting a much younger partner increased the odds of him finding such a person. He has had three other serious relationships and they were all age-appropriate.
My cousin actually said, "Forty-five is the new 30!
" My mother was less OK with it, but I expected that. Woman D: My family, especially my father, were very much against the relationship. My friends thought it was "gross" and it took them nearly all four years of college to warm up to my boyfriend.
But it's not an exact science — there are plenty of immature older men that would put teenagers to shame.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.
Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.
If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.
How did/does the age gap impact your relationship once you were in it?