I’ve known guys just as attractive as me who remained virgins into their 20S.
Awesome, smart, funny guys, with female friends and a reputation for being amazing.
Or have you merely parroted headlines from sensationalist media, or frightened friends? A simple, polite “Thank you, but no thank you” will suffice. Understand that most men will not take the first rejection seriously, as we are trained to be persistent, since persistence is attractive to women.
There actually isn’t such thing as a pickup artist—only men who took the time to understand your lizard brain; the ancient part that speaks to you in your dreams. I realize how ignorant and pompous this sounds, that we learned men know what you want from us better than you do. Ask yourself, have you taken the time to learn from us? Mostly about her job, her friends, her six weeks in Thailand. The most interesting word in the world is “I.” I went to the gym, I saw a movie, I have an opinion.” So ask him about him, and be interested and enthusiastic. On the other end of this spectrum, some girls don’t say anything. Women with lots of tattoos tend to marry tattoo artists, bikers, and professional skateboarders. All we care about at first, is how you look, and act—preferably like a woman who wants to please us. The most charming girls I ever dated long term, were always the ones who at first, listened and asked questions 80% more than they talked about their own lives. You might feel like we don’t communicate, or we never listen. But it doesn’t matter whether you like it or not, it’s how we are. They know how to move, how to talk to us, how to turn us on and most of all, how to heal us. We don’t need you to lead us, protect us, fight us, challenge us, or annoy us. Save this for later on, when it really matters, as a friend to a friend, not a woman to a man. I approached them, and she told me to take my friend away as he didn’t stand a chance.
Do you know what we actually do to pickup women, and why we do it? She never once asked me a question, laughed at my jokes, or showed any sign that she gave a shit who I was. You talk a lot.”She got a little upset, understandably. They simply show up and expect the man to fall head over heels for her. Accomplishments are cool, but keep your stats on the gender wage gap to yourself. We do love to communicate, but often, we just love to sit in quiet contemplation with a beautiful, peaceful, attentive woman at our side. Contrary to what the media has told you, we don’t like women who look, talk, and act like men. We want a sweet, charming, feminine girl who enjoys letting us feel like men. I looked at her and said “There will come a time when young men will no longer approach you, and that time is not far off.”Ouch!
And you …I know you’re frustrated, and I can’t imagine just how frustrating this is for you.
People say it’s easier for women, and at least in my own experience, that’s true.
If you’re over the bend and losing your appeal, work harder to stay fit, dress well, and utilize your wisdom to become the best damn conversationalist you can be. We go to the gym, we improve our style and grooming, we try to make more money, all to be more attractive, because that’s what works.
Because you won’t be able to rely on your looks forever.
The truth is, great, eligible, sexy guys staying virgins into adulthood is a growing trend, a new normal. You want to have sex, but you don’t want to scare women away by coming on too strong.
You may not feel confident with women, because you don’t have much experience.
I know it feels like it’s happened for everyone else, even the known weirdos and self-professed sexist perverts.
They’re all getting more ass than a hay bale at a donkey farm.
And if you’re single in your thirties, you probably don’t want to learn. If you’re getting mad, that’s because you recognize the truth. For some reason, western women have been taught that an aloof, bitchy, challenging attitude is attractive to men. Just think back to every bad boy you’ve ever lusted after. Think back to that man who picked you up at a party, or the bookstore.