Hitomi reported on some of the pitfalls that her fellow classmates ran into when dating Americans: You know, all couple have problems every time, but international couple have special problems. Especially, they said that it is difficult to communicate on phone because they can’t use body language.
Also, it is hard to talk about serious issues between them.
With love in the air this week thanks to Valentine’s Day, our Facebook fan Abdirahman reminded us that love is universal. But Tara noted, on her personal blog, that Valentine’s Day gifts seemed different in America than back in China.
Tara puzzled over whether the boyfriend was adhering to an American custom or just being cheap.
“If I remember right,” she wrote, “my friend’s b-day [birthday] gift is also a card…” But that’s one of the perils of dating in the U. – there are few rules to dictate what is the “proper” behavior.
But she also said that in an informal survey of her classmates, no one had ever broken up with a boyfriend or girlfriend because of cultural differences. In their survey they found this to be untrue, leading Kaori to say, “Hey, Asian boys! I think this is just a superficial thing, like being blonde or brunette.
Actually, “in the reality international couples break up the same as couples who are same nationalities,” said Mami, one of the anchors of the program. Mami, Hitomi, and co-anchor Kaori also discussed a common myth among international students, particularly Asians - that Asian boys have trouble getting dates in the U. Some girls might find your accent, your skin tone or your hair color attractive or not, but I don't think this is the kind of qualities that will make a girl fall in love with you.
It also happens that two couples marry when they are in love and have already met each other.
So, it might be called dating but there won’t be any sexual relations between them until they get married. According to NYU, “The media tends to convey the inaccurate idea that all Americans are readily available for sexual activity.” It’s not true, they say – sexual attitudes vary widely from person to person.Tara’s Taiwanese friend received a greeting card from her American boyfriend, and was disappointed.In Taiwan and China, it’s more typical to give a concrete gift.I don’t date but I still have my best friends to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a pillow fight festival.So if you are true to your values and your preferences no one can impose anything on you in this country.Learn to be true and be proud of who you are and learn to live with others while accepting their preferences.