Over dinner, my grandmother shared her story about what dating was like back in the 30s and 40s.
When my grandmother dated in middle school (yes, middle school) her parents had one primary rule for her.
Credit card bills, food expenses, and miscellaneous spending cost her $1,450.
As a devout Christian, she gives $350 per month in tithes to her church.
But according to the National Foundation for Credit Counseling, only 40% of American households use a budget.
The rest take a hit-or-miss approach, never really knowing whether they’re living within their means, in need of a better-paying job, or in a position to rein in their debts. One thing it does require is a deep look into your current financial picture and more than a bit of discipline.
Each year I waited for courtship to start working and for my homeschool friends to start getting married. The whole point of courtship was to have a happy marriage, not a high divorce rate.
So I humbled myself and took my grandmother out for dinner to hear why she thought courtship was a bad idea all those years ago.I talked with homeschool parents, students and alumni all over the country and started to see some challenges with making courtship work.Some of the specific challenges I identified were: So I founded Practical The Primary Dating Rule: Don’t go out with the same guy twice in a row. She explained that the lack of exclusivity helped them guard their hearts and kept things from getting too serious too quickly. The lack of exclusivity helped the girls guard their hearts and kept the boys from feeling entitled to the girl.So if she went out for soda with Bob on Tuesday, she had to go to a movie with Bill on Thursday before she could go to the school dance with Bob on Saturday. The lack of exclusivity kept the interactions fun and casual. How could a boy have a claim to her time, heart or body if she was going out with someone else later that week?And yet her community of friends all got married and then stayed married for decades and decades.