There are many women who struggle to find dates, whether it’s because they’re too tall, too big, too whatever. This complaint translates as “the hot woman I want to fuck but won’t give me the time of day can get sex any time she wants.” Beyond that, the ability to get a sexual partner within a pre-set amount of time or with whatever suitable definition of “ease” might be isn’t exclusive to women.
Men have equal ability to find sexual partners as women do…
It stands to reason that since women have all of the power when it comes to dating, they get to pick and choose from men who get laid are alpha males with lantern jaws and six-pack abs.
QED: all women want are hot assholes, not nice guys who may not be the social ideal. Ugly men do not get girlfriends or wives.” And yet somehow Patton Oswalt is happily married with a lovely daughter. For that matter, we can add Dennis Kucinich, Woody Allen, Henry Kissinger…
Look around and all you see are beautiful people fucking other beautiful people while wonderful – if less facially gifted – men are stuck home alone. In fact, the “ugly guy pulling hot women” trope is so well known that TVTropes has an entry on it. It’s the 21st century, a post-Third Wave Feminist era.
A woman will find frequently find her profile flooded with emails and winks.
Now ask her just how many of those come from people she’d want to talk to at all, never mind go on a date with.
And to be perfectly honest, people can be pretty damn shallow have.
They tend to believe that they deserve a smoking hottie, a perfect 10 regardless of their own looks, wealth, lifestyle or personality.
Guys frequently get hung up on numbers; how many people have you slept with, how quickly can you get a woman to sleep with you. The problem is that men are viewing women through the prism of the male experience: the goal of getting sex as quickly as possible, as easily as possible.
They have a tendency to fall for the old axiom that sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. While exceptions certainly exist, women on the whole don’t approach casual sex the way that men do; they’re not looking for how quickly they can find a pole for the hole, they’re looking for someone who excites them and can provide the sex they want.
As a general rule, men who are able to approach women aren’t too concerned about why women won’t make the first move because they’re more than happy to make the move themselves.
Now to be sure: there are of women out there who will happily be the aggressor when it comes to relationships. But for the sake of argument, let’s look at women may not want to make the first move.
The idea is that because it is supposedly easier for women to find a sexual partner than it is for a man, they are the dominant force, the buyer in a buyer’s market.