It’s actually slightly enraging to read some of these messages that these guys are sending to some of my female friends, only because all I can think is “HOW THIS IS MY COMPETITION!? Especially when I receive screen shots of first messages like the one below : I can’t even. That, somehow they are “beating the system” and not really having to do any work, other than craft a single super generic message and send it out dozens of times.
It COULD be a tell-tale sign of things to come in the relationship.
What’s to make you think he’s going to spend 5 minutes in making sure you’re having a good day, or 5 minutes to do something else thoughtful?
Objective 1: Prove that you read her profile This is by far the most important objective, I would think female’s are looking for a guy that actually invested the time to read her profile before he decided to send her a message.
How I demonstrate I actually took the time to read her profile is by commenting on something specific mentioned in her profile (DUH).
Here are a few screen shots of a few of the last messages I sent out. And if it doesn’t, that’s fine, I get it, the attractive guy who just writes “hey” will get a response, only because he’s attractive.
I love feedback, as long as you’re not a dick about. I assume that I should actually be TRYING to write a quality message because the content of the message is actually going to be read and weighed in the decision process of whether or not she will be responding back to me. Women, you should absolutely only respond to guys you find attractive, but beware of ANY guy who won’t even spend 5 minutes to read your profile and send you a personalized message.
Preferably, open ended questions, in regards to her profile.
She will be more likely to respond if you ask her about something mentioned in her profile, as opposed to a random question you want answered. There absolutely is, that one girl that is an egotistical maniac that loves hearing stuff like that from strangers on the internet.
Like I see what they were “trying” to say in their messages, but since they don’t know how to write it just came off as rude.
If you are able to convey your humor in writing (LIKE ME), then by all means, go for it, but it’s probably safe to say since she’s never met you, conveying funny in messages may be difficult.
Since I write a blog about the good, bad and funny of online dating, a lot of my female friends send me a lot of their good, bad and funny interactions from online dating.