Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . For more information, visit Currie’s page or his website, Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves.Pity is not a strong foundation to build attraction on.
Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation.
Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day?
Never invite a woman on a formal ‘date’ if all you are looking to do is engage in one or more episodes of short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with her.
Just hook up with that woman and have sex with her; 1. Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex’.
We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions.
Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers.
Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.
Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful.
Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great! Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and sets the wrong tone for future interactions.
If she doesn’t like your choice of venue, then make up for it in the interaction.