To her surprise, everyone was having challenges and all were excited to talk about it. She started with Little People of America, an umbrella organization that provides support to people of short stature, from information on scholarships and medical procedures to artist’s funds and specially designed kitchen appliances.
“And it included terminology, words people weren’t using in their language.
Genital words—vagina, penis, orgasm, all of these things.”She quit her job at the IRS and has since become something of a sex education mogul.
They adapted a side-by-side position to cope with her pain.
“So when I saw the program on TV I thought, ‘Wow, I wonder what other people are doing in our community because no one is talking about it.’”What followed was a series of phone calls to her close friends asking what they were doing in bed.
On average, they are 4 feet tall with a wide range of difficulty in medical conditions.“When I speak regarding Little People,” Naccarato says, “there are Little People who don’t consider themselves disabled because they don’t have any really strong physical limitation—but most Little People do.
There is a variety, a spectrum.” Some have no medical limitations—they are just short. Typical issues that affect sex and sexuality include arms that are too short to reach and touch one’s genitals, hip rotation limitations that prevent the possibility of straddling, and severe spinal stenosis that can often result in paralysis from the waist down.“I have been involved with Little People of America since I was 9 years old and I have attended numerous conferences and workshops,” Naccarato says.That is another [question I asked] when they couldn’t reach their genitals—‘How did you manage your sexuality as an adult?’ There was a gap that may occur in that development where some maturity is not had.” Sixty-seven percent of the Little People in Naccarato’s studies who could not reach their genitals felt that sex was very important.She was a speaker at their conference earlier this month in San Diego where she broke through conservative boundaries to talk the ins and outs of sex, intimacy, and lovemaking with the various limitations that may come with life as a person of short stature.Born and raised in Los Angeles to a Sicilian Catholic father and a Moroccan Jewish mother, Naccarato found herself in the sex counseling and education field by accident.Although she was working for the IRS, she had always wanted to be a social worker, until one night when she watched a program on sexual health on a cable network.