If you believe that someone has a special sensitivity about God, he or she is going to have power over you, because God is, by definition, all-powerful.
A lot of my non-religious friends particularly didn’t understand this point, so I’m going to put it another way.
Think about titles: “Reverend” (from “revere”), “Monsignor” (“my lord”), or, in the Episcopal Church, “Father” or “Mother” (do I need to explain that one? For a while I was dating someone whom convention would have me refer to as “Mother Strickland”.
You automatically confide in these people with sensitive information for specific purposes, and in return, they do not use it for another goal—such as trying to develop sexual intimacy. The pastor can learn about your deepest values and fears and dreams at an alarmingly fast rate—and it’s nearly impossible for him or her not to use that for manipulative ends if the two of you get sexually involved.
The entire United States recognizes a fiduciary duty in the pastor-parishioner relationship. Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
It’s worse than being on the cover of the National Enquirer, because it’s your that’s curious about your sex life, and they’re all spiritually invested in the pastor’s emotional stability.
One of the few parishioners that found out about me and my pastor ended up giving me a 20-minute lecture on how I’d better treat her well, because she was currently an “integrated personality”, and we didn’t want that disturbed.
Pastors very frequently begin their interactions with new parishioners by sitting down, maybe over dinner, or in their office, or in my case over email, and letting the parishioner talk about their deepest secrets. In my situation, from the beginning I told my pastor about my fears about death, family problems, and troubles with my studies.
And she would put all these secrets in a Biblical and theological perspective, and then pray for me, because that’s what pastors do, right?It was even harder for the people around me to understand why particular pastor’s behavior was improper, because the classic gender roles were reversed: I’m a man, and the minister is a woman.Nonetheless, she was trained in seminary not to make advances at parishioners, and denominational officials and various outside organizations all eventually said that she had violated the basic rules and ethics of ministry.(Includes basic obligations for all ministers) As a minister of Jesus Christ, called by God to proclaim the gospel and gifted by the Spirit to pastor the church, I dedicate myself to conduct my ministry according to the ethical guidelines and principles set forth in this code of ethics, in order that my ministry may be acceptable to God, my service beneficial to the Christian community, and my life a witness to the world.ul.website_links, #posts_module ul #posts_module ul #page_container, .page_container .page_sub_body div#playlist_container div.player_controls div#global_player div.player_controls span.playlist_play_button, span.playlist_pause_button a.track_name span.track_options .page_column_narrow .page_column_narrow .player_wrapper .block_ad_container .module_header, .page_header .module.page_wrapper ul .no_content #friends_module p.nodisp #friends_module ul li div.result_item .page_column_narrow .module_wrapper ul li .header_cap_right a div.player_controls div.page_sub_body h3 #comment_module h3.module_header .playlist_container .list_options .page_container .block_ad_container .listener_profile .page_column_narrow div.track_meta_list, .listener_profile .page_column_narrow div.track_meta_list p .listener_profile .meta_mini_image .listener_profile .meta_mini .listener_profile .prev_next_link_container img .listener_profile .listener_profile .page_header .listener_profile .page_column_wide .horizontal_list.vertical_format li.album .listener_profile .module_header .listener_profile .page_column_narrow .border_light #listener_profile_posts_index #posts_module ul #listener_profile_posts_index h4 .listener_profile .listener #body_inner h4 #comment_module ul .horizontal_list.vertical_format li.photo .image_container .detail_label .detail_label:hover /****Button Color****/ span.playlist_play_button, span.playlist_pause_button, a.options_button, .button_expand.colored a, .button_expand.colored a span, .small_button.colored a, .small_button.colored a span, .button_expand.colored a:hover, .button_expand.colored a:hover span, .small_button.colored a:hover, .small_button.colored a:hover span, .event_row span.event_cal_month, #poster_refresh:hover, a.track_like:hover, .playlist_item .track_options a.track_like.selected, .playlist_item .track_options a.track_like.selected:hover, .detail_previous_next a:hover, .promonote_speech, .promonote_speech_arrow, .album_highlight a:hover, a.j Scroll Arrow Up, a.j Scroll Arrow Down, a.j Scroll Arrow Up:hover, a.j Scroll Arrow Down:hover, .view_more:hover, .player_volume .volume_meter, .playlist_item:hover .track_options_menu_button, .playlist_item:hover .track_options_menu_button:hover, .button_player .play_button, .button_player .pause_button, .detail_label:hover, a.play_launch, a.share_playlist_button, img.online_now_icon, a.track_remove:hover /****Button Color****/ a.image_container:hover img, div.played_progress, .view_more:hover, a.share_playlist_button /****Text Link Color****/ a, a:hover, .profile_nav ul li.profile_nav_selected a, #profile_nav ul li.profile_nav_selected a:hover, #poster_like:hover, #announcement_module a /****These Styles Reset the Blue****/ .pvblue div.But pastors can turn all that knowledge around very quickly to get you to feel you’re falling in love.