Sometimes there are psychological reasons for an adult child resisting a parent’s new love life.For instance, a young woman may be especially sensitive when her father forms a serious new relationship.And when you can’t reestablish harmony in the family, short-term counseling could be beneficial for everyone.
“But the next time I visited them, Pat was showing off her new emerald-cut sapphire ring.
That thing cost more than a down payment on a house!
Case in point: Melissa Spence, a 24-year-old schoolteacher in New Jersey, who’s been watching from the sidelines as her father, Richard, spends money on his new wife, Pat.
“I asked my dad if he could help out with my rent for the few months between graduate school and when my job started, and he said he had too many other expenses,” Melissa says.
” Melissa also knows that her father changed his will to let Pat live out her days in the house he’d formerly bequeathed to his children. “If I want to spend my money on the woman I love, that’s my prerogative,” he says.
“I paid for my daughter’s education, and I am putting away money for my future grandchildren.” When told about Melissa’s concerns, he responded: “My children and grandchildren will be well provided for.“Many a bad girl or bad boy prowls for rich divorced baby boomers to marry and fleece,” she says.If your children, who presumably love you dearly in spite of all that other stuff, raise concerns, maybe you should hear them out before diving in.Don't be surprised if your child shows signs of insecurity or regression, becomes extra mischievous, uncooperative, or clingy, or seeks a lot of attention from you and others during this difficult time.Even the most amicable of separations creates an earth-shattering change for any child.“This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest.