Take a walk, go dancing, go to the library, go to the beach it’s all just too much effort for a gamer boyfriend.
I hope you have a really tight-knit circle of friends because you’ll be seeing them a lot while your boyfriends at home raiding. You may have a varying level of interest in your health and appearance, but in my experience guy gamers just don’t bother.
I didn’t feel like my personality and looks alone was enough to generate any real interest ).
Something that men could relate to and feel comfortable talking about.
The older you both are, the more true that statement rings.
Don’t get pulled into his fantasy about how he’s going to eventually hit the big time. Unless he actively addresses the treatment of women in gamer culture in conversation, there’s a good chance he’s on other side of the fence. It feels nice at first, getting treated like a princess. To him you’re like a glorious hot chick trophy to be paraded out to his friends, “AND she plays games” he’ll say in the same tone one might say, “AND it has a cup holder”.
He’s waiting for the adventure of his life to drop into his lap, for someone to swing through a window and tell him only he can fight the alien invaders that are about to conquer Earth.
Or perhaps he’s just so afraid of real world challenges that it’s easier to immerse himself in a world that’s set up to accommodate him.
I dated a lot of men who considered themselves “gamers”. Now obviously this is all based on my personal experience and my friends. However, if you feel you’re the exception to any of this, just feel content in that.
Every night is like a pajama sleep over that ends in sex. That’s before spending every night in playing League of Legends or Assassin’s Creed gets really, boring. My focus was being good enough for them with no question as to whether they were good enough for me.
He can’t put his finger on what it is, but the magic is gone. 2.) The other and more common one is he’ll expect you to be “just one of the guys”. You need to play games like his friends, eat like his friends, talk like his friends all while balancing being casual and hot.