By the way: Don't be surprised to find your young man similarly shaved (except for maybe his face). Resist the impulse to listen too sympathetically to his problems, to warn him that he really shouldn't be smoking or drinking so much, to tell him how he might rev up his career or do better in school (yikes), much less to give him too-explicit directions in the romance arena.
The fact is: If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him. MORE: 5 Things Every Girl Needs to Know About Guys Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid – One motion: OFF!
In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions – somewhere between amusement and contentedness.
If you're wearing cougar clothes and prowling the cougar den, then own up to why you're there and what you want! The only thing that's changed is the response required from you. Depending on how far you decide to take this thing, you may have sex with your youthful partner — if you're lucky, that is.
Rather than saying, "You're so smart" or "That's so interesting," you only need to memorize one word: Awesome! Young guy: "I'm in my third year of law school." You: "Awesome! But sex is what it is and what he's going to call it, if not something blunter, and so should you.
It’s not uncommon for people, men or women, to derive their sense of well-being, self-worth, and self-esteem from how other people treat them.
Unfortunately, it’s a false sense of well-being and is entirely dependent on the actions of others (thus the inevitable crippling neediness).
When a woman’s relationship ends, she mourns,” or “He’s just hooking up with such-and-such to spite the ex-girlfriend,” or “Guys just don’t care” and other nonsense.
To dispel the misconceptions, let’s take a look at some of the universal truths about guys and breakups – some of which may surprise you since they certainly are hidden from the surface. Simple enough to say, but I know plenty of women will talk about how some guy came off like an insensitive jackass after the relationship fell apart because of his actions post-breakup.
En español │Unless you've been living under a rock, you no doubt know that the term "cougar" no longer just applies to dangerous mountain lions.
Now it's all about older women who hook up with younger men: Demi Moore, Joan Collins, Susan Sarandon, Naomi Watts, Madonna … As you read through the celebrity mags, you may find yourself wondering what life would be like if you, too, could prowl the cougar dens.
The good news: It's all totally within your reach — hypothetically, that is.