I’ve got clients who want someone who can dance, because dancing is important.
I’ve got clients who have to find a dog-lover, because their pets are like children.
I used an example of a Jewish woman who wanted to marry Jewish (which is normal), but also wanted to insist that her man be an animal activist as well.
Have you ever dated someone who was really religious and he/she chose religion over you?
The thing is, I’m not of any religion, but I’m pretty open-minded.
He says I won’t be able to support his decisions and/or I’ll resent him.
An example is if we were married in the future, he would want to donate lots and lots of money to the needy because he’s willing to sacrifice his own selfish needs to help others as God would want him to.
I’m a big believer in searching for answers, but only where answers can be had.
Which is why I don’t spend much time worrying about how we got here or where we go when we die; nor do I obsess about why someone doesn’t like me.
The problem is that most of us can’t really respect when someone sees the world completely differently than we do.
In order to have that strong connection we crave, we look for someone who is like-minded.
Some people (including some industrious person who sent me an anonymous copy of , and another who compared me to Hitler) get really bent out of shape about this – as if I was saying that religion doesn’t matter. Religion absolutely matters – if you make it matter.
Loving dogs absolutely matters – if you make it matter.
If there were feedback forms on every date, it would be useful, but we’re never gonna really know why others do what they do. I’ve been dumped for Jesus, Buddha, Jehova, and that Hindu dude with the elephant head.