Are you sitting at home alone on a Sunday night eating dinner, watching DVD, reminiscing about your weekend without him and wondering why the heck he didn’t call and ask to see you this weekend? You know he didn’t have a date; and you know he didn’t hook up with anyone else. You’ve told him you would be excited to do this sometime; but this weekend (you found out from a mutual friend, or from his Twitter for that matter) he went to the ocean (to walk on the beach) BY HIMSELF! He was online on a dating site on which you met Saturday night apparently having nothing better to do. Or perhaps you both share a passion for walking on the beach. This is something you totally envision yourself doing with someone you are falling in love with.
If you give a man shit about disappearing on you; scold him for not inviting you with him; tell him you thought you were a couple, and other things like that…
it may TEMPORARILY get his compliance because he doesn’t want to interrupt a continuous stream of sex he is getting from you… The only really thing that works here to make him CHANGE HIS WAYS – is to MAKE SURE HE FALLS FOR YOU!
Emotionally unavailable people are the moths of the relationship kingdom.
Let a person like this stay in your life for too long and they’ll eat away at your emotional well being just as surely as a clothing moth will consume your favorite wool sweater.
He will want to merge your lives together; and he will want to introduce you to his life and the things he loves.
He will want you to be with him at his house when his family comes over; he will want you to get to know his kids!
Whenever there is a marked discrepancy between two people in terms of how much of their emotional/physical life they make available to the other there is going to be drama.
If you feel the person that your dating is a Ms./Mr. proactively seek help and do the work to change, they’re never going to be truly available – for anyone.
Then they start pulling back sexually or their style suddenly changes. When you first got together there weren’t enough hours in the day for you to spend together. Unavailable typically actively seeks out relationships. They can be the most romantic and or considerate people in the universe, that is until there is the perceived or actual expectation of some form of commitment.
Now she has dozens of excuses why she can’t see you as frequently. So, what are some of the warning signs that someone isn’t really available?
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