“I was really into this girl during my sophomore year, but for a really long time I wasn’t sure she liked me,” says Matt, a junior at Boston University.
“If you’re going to ask a guy out, it’s best to make it as nonthreatening as possible,” Lieberman says.
“For example, you can invite him to a gathering of some sort – like a party or a meeting of a club – where it’s not going to be one-on-one, like a real date.” These types of group events are easy ways to test the waters and avoid any awkward situations.
A sure sign that a guy is interested in you is if he’s constantly inviting you to these as his plus-one.
Being his date shows that you’re on his mind and that he’s comfortable spending time with you.
Every sign indicates that he’s into you, but instead of dating, you’re stuck frantically checking your phone for texts and refreshing his Facebook and Twitter pages for any kind of information. Some guys are just a bit shyer than others and might make the first move.
However, that shouldn’t stop you from scoring a first date!
They’ll create a more informal setting for the two of you, and with other people around, it’s much less intimidating.
Lieberman’s second tip is to keep it simple and remove all of the pressure.
The most important piece of body language, according to Lieberman, is lots of smiling.
She says a guy who flirts with you without making any sexual advances may actually be very interested.
Neder Ok, so you've been on three dates together and you're ready for something a little bit more, er, "mature." How do you go about making that first move?