For a child, seeing one or both of their parents begin to date after a divorce can signify the death of a fantasy.
According to Katy Abel, because children's identity is wrapped up in the union of their parents, seeing Mom or Dad interested in someone else threatens their sense of self.
Katy Abel reports that many children will be manipulative upon hearing about a new love interest in their parent's life.
You know that you have all the responsibility of bringing up your children on your own, but you should be able to get a greater kick out of the joys of parenting too.
Yet no matter how you feel about being a single parent, it shouldn’t mean that you have to stay on your own.
Furthermore, a child may feel that the new lover is trying to step into their other parent's place, potentially leading to rebellion and bitterness.
Finally, they may find themselves competing for the attention of the parent who has found a new date.
In fact many of my friends who are bringing up little ones on their own would love to meet someone but are not sure how they’ll do it.
I’ve talked to the ones who have been successful and here are a few pointers that they have suggested for single parents: We got together a few thoughts between us all to help you prepare for a very different dating scene than when you were single without children. You won’t want to get it wrong and you certainly want to be confident before you introduce a new partner to the children. You are almost certain to feel a little guilty, but if you expect it from the outset it will be easier to cope with.
It is natural for a child to feel threatened by the entrance of a new relationship into the picture, according to Katy Abel.
A child may wonder if Mom is going to pay as much attention to him at his basketball game now that she has a new boyfriend.
Instead of going dancing maybe go walking for the first couple of times.