Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.
Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?
Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.
Most say living together prior to getting engaged has less promising outcomes, but this might not reflect changing cultural acceptance.
If not, are you ready or willing to take a stand for what you want?
And pressing someone for marriage might be brushing over the issues that keep him from proposing in the first place.
Couples who have more conflict in a long courtship often deteriorate faster after marriage, and if you are already fighting or tense because of this issue, it might be best to address it now.Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.There is actually a lower divorce rate now than in the 80s, and what marriage means on a societal level is also changing.Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.