Anxiety about receiving I just met with a single, dating client who is discovering a special kind of relational anxiety.
To give another example of dating anxieties about receiving, one man, for example, was visiting his date and she offered to go and get him a glass of wine.
He agreed and within seconds experienced acute anxiety.
We tend to fear the unknown so if we can get a better understanding of it, we can reduce the mystery of it and see what it’s all about.
When a man asks a woman out and gets rejected, it obviously hurts the ego and men tend to take it personally, as a rejection of their entire being, but the real pain is more innate and biological because when a woman rejects a man, and other women see it, they leap to the conclusion that something must be wrong with him, reducing his chances with those other woman.
For her and for others, having needs met can be fraught with unanticipated pain.
"What if I get used to this, and then he leaves me? It's better not to let it happen." So often people burdened with this fear at receiving have a deep belief that they are in fact unlovable.
That may work for some, but most men will have trouble just starting. The rejection rate is very high and the average response rate, if you’re good is 1%, but there is a less invasive way that will greatly reduce your chances of getting rejected and that’s by simply getting quality leads.
What I mean by quality leads are honing in on the women who seem to have an interest in you.
And even if no other women are there to witness it, they might hear it through the grapevine, and even if nobody else knows about it, the man tends to think the same thing – that there must be something wrong with him, hindering his confidence with the ladies in the future.