A lot of the larger women I’ve dated (and I love bigger women too, although I’m more on the chubby side of average, so I don’t get the brush-off you’ve experienced) feel self conscious about their appearance.
Right as I was going solo in late 2016, I went to the Curvy Girl plus size lingerie show in San Jose, CA.
I’m sitting there at my Babecamp booth when this cutie pie comes up to me and is like “Hi, my name is Krista.
I didn’t have the delicate graces of any of the women on TV. And nothing fit me so I couldn’t even wear anything cute. David was (way) older than me, worked at Butterfield & Butterfield, and introduced me to the world of nice towels and foie gras.
I started dating when I was 17, after years of being told that no man would ever want to be with me because I was fat. Since then, dating as a plus size woman has always been complicated.
Take every opportunity (on dates, during sex, after) to tell your partner how beautiful, sexy, etc. Be specific, whether it’s “I love your powerful strong body” or “Your curves are so sexy and you really turn me on.” And be patient.
Maybe you’ll find a totally body positive bigger woman who is into you, ready to be with you, and unselfconscious in sex.
That was me – a burgeoning mini-babe who didn’t know she was a total catch, trying really hard to get a boyfriend.
I always found the world of dating and romance both alluring and inhospitable.
Wherever the larger girl you’re with is on that journey, she may project her own discomfort onto you i.e.
being reluctant to get in bed with you because she thinks she’ll crush you. It’s not about you and your petite body, it’s about her.
(that’s my actual given name listed on my birth certificate, not a nickname haha lol) I am in need of some advice. I’ve always been of petite build and right now I’m 5’1″” and about 120 lbs.