Just how many of those old friends turn into new partners is harder to pinpoint.
But however long-lost loves reunite — a social site, a dating site, a phone call, a note or even a chance meeting at a reunion or a funeral — there's an allure in rekindling a simmering flame. When Debby Klein agreed to have dinner four years ago with her old buddy Jeff Stiel, she was unclear if it was a date or just two old camp-counselor friends getting together at the urging of a mutual friend.
This return trip included one of my sisters, who also knows these relationship details of my life.
So she and my brother encouraged me to write down what I’d say to this woman if given another chance.
This one, though, is diving into a deeper and more private part of my life…something I don’t do very often. I guess when I post something, I try to keep it somewhat light and entertaining so I’m a bit nervous about what this post could reveal to you about me. On our 15 hr trip from Tallahassee, Florida to Branson, Missouri my brother and I covered a lot of topics, my dating life was one of them.
Being single at 38 offers a decent topic to waste time talking about, right?
It's theoretically possible that this kind of reunion would result in the old romance rekindling to its former glory or something still greater, but in most cases Status Quo Is God and this would create too many difficulties.
Often, the character with the New Old Flame is already (re-)married, and it turns out it's not just the audience that's surprised.
And such matches are becoming increasingly common, thanks to the explosion of social media.
A 2015 study by the Pew Research Center found that more than half of Internet users over 50 are on Facebook and that finding people from their past is among their top reasons for logging on.
Maybe the reasons it ended were characteristics that I’ve grown out of, ya know?
Like, I’ve matured and grown into a different place than I was back then, and perhaps she has, too.
"Shared history brings a comfort we especially want as we get older," says psychologist Stan Tatkin, author of Your Brain on Love. Dating wasn't high on Debby's priority list; she had recently ended a long relationship that followed her divorce.