Knowing this, I made sure to explain to my boyfriend early on (the first date) that we do things a little differently in the West.Knowing that I'd be leaving Korea, I also told him that I didn't want anything serious. So, when he asked if I would meet his parents, I got a bit worried.Yongguen turned to me and had a worried expression on his face. "So, if you two get married," his dad started, "will you clean our ancestral graves? They were quite content with this answer and continued eating. Certain objects dreamed about indicate certain aspects of the baby-to-be. I never felt judged by my boyfriend's family and although the questions were far more serious than anything we would discuss in a similar meet-the-parents situation in the West, I'm convinced that they were more curious than anything.
If Yongguen and I are still together, it's payback time.
I'm sure that evening will make for another great story. (Update July 2012: Yongguen and I have since broke up.
Knowing that they were devout Catholics, I knew I had at least had the same-religious background thing going for me.
I started to assure myself that it would be fine but I soon found out that I'd be meeting them at my boyfriend's dad's 60th birthday party (a big deal in Korean culture), which didn't help settle my nerves.
Well, one thing lead to the next and before I knew it, I was going on trips with him to cliche couple spots around Seoul, like Namsan Tower and Nami Island. Like in the West, meeting the parents of a significant other often means that things are quite serious and is commonly indicative of a forthcoming marriage.
Yongguen assured me that this was not the case and simply wanted his parents to meet me before I left, as he didn't know when there would be another chance for this to happen.As they chatted in Korean, I noticed at the table next to us a Korean family and Western girl about my age.I could see that the same exact thing was going on at their table, which is weird as it's very uncommon in Seoul.There's none of this "It's complicated..." "We're talking..." "We're texting"..."We've been dating for a year but we still haven't had the DTR (defining the relationship) talk..." No. After two or three dates with someone, it's automatically assumed that an exclusive relationship has been formed.I headed to Mokdong to get to the restaurant where my boyfriend and his brother were waiting. He didn't speak much English but he was laid back enough.