A quick search of the major dating sites for profiles of local men over 45 reveals a shocking number of them posing bare-chested, or holding beer or fish.Some are smiling in obvious discomfort at their bathroom mirrors as they pose for selfies. Profiles of guys in this area between 35 and 45 are just as likely to show them shirtless, although with fewer fish, more hair and more genuine smiles. Women, on the other hand, seem more likely to post candid self-portraits that were taken for other purposes—with children or dogs or during outings with friends.
Navigating these treacherous shoals is not made any easier by channel-surfing shows like , which portray the quest for love as a prize to be won by one party and one party alone.
Which is perhaps why some local residents, like John Murphy, 57, have redefined the digital dating game on their own terms.
“All of a sudden I was single and all my friends were couples.
I took some time to rediscover things I hadn’t done in a long time, such as building up my professional and social ties. I was rudderless for a while, and didn’t like being home alone.” Like many who are single the second time around, Erik still prefers to meet women the old-fashioned way, in casual social settings.
They tend to disclose more information than do their male counterparts, sharing details of films and books they love and using the word “honest” a lot.
“Sincere” is a common refrain in their descriptions of the ideal man. A few men insist they only want to date women who wear a size 6, and several women say they only want to date men who are significantly taller, so they can wear kick-ass heels.
And after a while, the photos and profiles all tend to blend together, like résumés for coveted jobs and college applications for Ivy League universities.
Is it possible that the majority of daters truly are all good listeners, nondrinkers and great kissers and give great back-rubs?
Being that those are three of my food groups, I can’t tell you how ready I was to leave.
I mean, we can never share a slice of cheesecake or a bottle of wine?
” Finding men with compatible interests (and tastes) hasn’t been easy for Donnelly, a dental hygienist.