What a load of rubbish all that was.”Whilst these women usually find plenty of prospective partners keen to indulge with them, the ageing male body isn’t always up to it.When one of my older female clients contacts me with glad tidings – she’s met a lovely man and giving up dating to enjoy their new relationship – often she gets back in touch some months later to say they are struggling with an erection problem.There are also older men who just aren’t very interested in sex or who believe in waiting until the right person comes along –all sort of possible reasons why a man might not want to rush into a sexual relationship.
The research showed roughly a third of singles over 50 have slept with someone they met online.
A similar proportion typically have sex on the third date but another third wait for five to ten dates or longer. When couples take it slowly, often it is the women putting on the breaks.
It’s not how women in their sixties are expected to behave.
George, 68, was a good catch, a retired Sydney lawyer, chatty, charming and well-read.
This is the baby boomer generation which came of age during the sexual revolution so it’s hardly surprising that when large numbers found themselves over fifty and unattached, many revelled in new opportunities provided by online dating to leap back into the saddle.
I’ve been working as an online dating coach for the past four years and amongst my clients are some very lusty women happy to acknowledge that whilst they are ultimately looking for a relationship they aren’t adverse to just a roll in the cot.“If I meet someone I find attractive, I’d rather just jump into bed quickly and get the preliminaries over and done with.
George mentions a number of dates who refused a goodnight kiss even after the fourth or fifth date.
“I didn’t want a refrigerator”, he said scathingly.
Sometimes men seem to want you to be prim and proper and so if you have flirted they think that all you want is sex.