I actually though was pleasently surprised when someone sent me their number, said the same thing OP, they like to be on the compy as little as possible, but said it was ok if I called and blocked my number. Two people who are a good match for each other will graduate to phone conversations at a certain point naturally, and both look forward to doing so (example - you want to ask/they're hoping you ask or vice versa).If you have to stop and think about it, it's contrived and the person you're considering probaby isn't on your wavelength.
Many here feel differently in fact I think the normal thing may be 2 emails based on my experience here. If you tolerate lots of emails before speaking on the phone then be prepared for some women to waste weeks and months of your time and then never actually talk on the phone with you. I won't do it unless she is straightforward and lets me know she requires it to feel comfortable.
If she cops this attitude of "oh no he did something wrong so I will stop talking to him and not say what he did wrong" because I asked to talk on the phone too early - well then, too bad for her.
If the email gives no sence of this person's personality, then I wouldn't but if I truely enjoyed the bantor back and forth, I would send my digits to them in a heartbeat.
Other times if I've gotten a number, and I'm not interested, I will say thanks, but not offer mine.
A couple ways I've had it put (paraphrased from memory): "I'd love to be able to hear your voice. ""I don't have computer access at work, any chance I can get your number so I could call you on my break? You can be more calm and collective on line and get your points across better because you can delete and think about what you are saying.
After you become a little more comfortable with the person you will be ready for phone and actual meeting.
Some women, like me, feel more comfortable if the man gives his number. Like someone else said, if we can't have an interesting, intelligent e-mail conversation you probably don't need my phone #....
I don't give mine out until I've determined that I actually want someone to call me.
Since every woman seems to have a different attitude about this, I recommend asking in an email what her preference is. If a man has a very short profile and doesn't provide much info in his emails, though, I will either email long enough to get a better idea of who he is or politely say no thanks. There is no set number of e-mails, everyone is different.
That way you can let her know that while you are interested and prefer to talk on the phone sooner rather than later, you are also respectful of her preferences or comfort level with this. Different circumstances; different reasons; different preference.)One thing I totally agree with you about is that I'd rather meet someone sooner than email forever. I get the sense that you are rushing things a bit, obviously they aren't ready to share that info yet, so maybe slow down and give you BOTH enough time to get to the phone stage.
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