This is a big departure from my past relationships where the main attractions for me tended to be adventure, talent, and substance abuse instead of common values and lifestyles — in other words, I liked to date musicians.My current boyfriend is the only boyfriend I’ve ever had who actually makes me feel like he is looking for a real partner, and respects me on all levels (values, interests, opinions, intelligence, humor). If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog.
Then you have to go through the emotional hell of leaving a man you love in every way so that you can fulfill your dream of becoming a mother.
Then, let’s say it takes you six months to a year to get over him. Maybe he remains this figure in your mind forever, a symbol of a path not taken, and every time one of your future children acts out or pushes your buttons, or the father of said children does something to piss you off, you’ll think back to this life that could have been and this partner you could have had and you’ll feel a sense of loss and sadness. Especially when you were given fair warning — the man said he had been considering a vasectomy for years!
— May-December Ah, the ol’ “I want kids, but he’s not so sure” question.
I get a variation of this letter every month or so and keep answering it publicly so that all the women — or men — in your situation will recognize themselves and MOA if there isn’t an absolute agreement on kids. It means your boyfriend has to be 100%, absolutely committed to the idea of having children with you.
What if you break up with your boyfriend when you’re 29, take a year to get over him, and then don’t meet anyone you really click with until you’re, like, 32 or 33?
And then you want to date him for a couple years before you have kids, so then you’re close to 35.When I told him that that would probably make me fall away from him slowly due to my desire to have a kid or two, he seemed touched that I would ever consider having kids with him, and very sincerely said that he loves children. While this is not currently a major issue for us, I have concerns in my mind about marrying someone who will probably die well before me, and who would not be as mobile as a younger man with young children.What do I need to think about while moving forward with him?Here’s 10 things no one tells you about dating in your 50s. Men in their 50s like to complain They like to moan about the price of coffee in Starbucks, the parking, the traffic, the weather they had to fight through to get to the date…In other words, they’ve had to make the effort to see you.You’d better be better be worth it, you lucky duck. Men in their 50s see Clarkson as their style muse Expect old fleeces and basics jeans on a first date. Men in their 50s can still be players But now they’re trying to cheat on their wife, not just their girlfriend. Men in their 50s run the gauntlet with their hair transplants While we all lose our looks as we get older, it’s still sad to know he’ll never look as good as Calum Best with his. Men in their 50s often have suspiciously long gaps between relationships He says he was a single father, although you suspect he may have just been watching About A Boy last night. Men in their 50s don’t often like change What do you mean you want dinner at a different pub? Men in their 50s prioritise their kids This is great. …But this doesn’t mean they won’t pay for their half of dinner with a voucher they found online.